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"Can You Have Sex?" and other FAQS: Becky and Dan's Interabled Love Story

    From the moment that Dan and I started dating, people have asked me what it’s like to date someone who has a disability. I’m going to use this blog to try to answer some of those questions, starting with the ‘big ones’. “What’s it like dating someone in a wheelchair?” This isn’t hugely different to asking ‘What’s it like dating someone called Dan?’. The obvious answer is, well, no two men called Dan are the same. Everyone is different. Ok, so accessibility needs to be considered when dating any wheelchair user, but even that aspect differs from person to person. The rest is just like going out with someone who doesn’t have a disability; first date nerves, worries about awkward silences, excitement...

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"All Bodies are Good Bodies": Zoë's Body Positivity Story

I'm Zoë and I have Hypermobile Ehlers Danlos Syndrome a genetic disorder, various comorbidities and ME/CFS, which remained mainly undiagnosed until I was 19.  For about 3 years in my mid teens I became very sick and I spent my life between my bed, the children's hospital and school when I could manage it. I hid my body under a uniform of fluffy socks, leggings and a hoodie. On the worst days I often couldn't dress myself, brush my own teeth or shower, at one point I was sleeping for anything from 18 to 20 hours a day.  My faith in my body was shattered,  Hundreds of humiliating, dehumanising medical procedures made me distant from my 'meat suit', I read hundreds of...

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Love Stories: Interabled Couple Advice and Interdependance

Many people are surprised that my husband is not disabled. There is still a lot of stigma that causes people to believe people with disabilities only date other disabled people. I am often asked how I ended up with a typically functioning person. The simplest answer is God. However, I know many of you are looking for a more concrete, practical answer. What did I do? What did I say? I often get these types of questions from women with disabilities who are longing for the companionship I have been blessed with. There are a few things I think many people with disabilities are doing wrong when it comes to finding a partner. Surprisingly to some people, a lot of...

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